I Still Want to Listen But….

When you are teaching someone or teaching a group of people, is it right to be mean and humiliate someone to stress that you are right?

It is right to criticize someone’s wrong deeds as an example to your teachings?

Is it right to laugh at someone’s stupidity, weakness and wrong beliefs?

Is it right to hurt a person’s feeling for other people to learn?

It is right  to question what someone say or do?

Is it right to boast just to inspire people to stress the right path to take?

Can you teach without judging others?

Isnt it shallowness, hyprocrisy, lack of understanding to human behavior and possibly wrong beliefs about self to say things that can degrade or kill someone in words?

How could you judge the world you live in without weighing yourself in all aspects? Teaching someone to be in the right path  doesnt mean you gotta be holy or pure. It doesnt mean you you’ve got to be righteous before someone listens to you.  

Do you cast a stone to someone without examining yourself? 

He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her–bible

When you teach, you’ve got to acknowledge that each one of us has weaknesses,  any human behavior has a reason, everyone has feelings. Isnt it appropriate to just inspire humbly for people to learn than to condemn? The sole purpose of teaching someone to have a purpose-driven life or to be in the right path is to be able to effectively change a person without losing his self esteem, where a person can develop a positive self  love and gain a deep understanding of the world. Another purpose is to help the person study himself without degradation but by how you shine as a humble teacher with your words and deeds. Even if you dont speak of your goodness or shout to the world about your achievements, you will illuminate and you will become someone’s leader(like my former classmate whom I will always respect for being a good leader and a good person without being arrogant).

I believe it’s possible to help others see through your eyes because you can lend your vision and get it back when the person can view things alone the way you want that person to view things or you can help the person see the world he should suppose to see through the light that illuminates in you.

A good teacher is a good leader as well but you’ve got to win people and not sway them away. 

This is worth to share from Dale Carnegie’s ” How to Win Friends and Influence People”

Source: Wikipedia

Some are somewhat related or not related to the post but I still included them.

Fundamental Techniques in Handling People

1. Don’t criticize, condemn or complain.
2. Give honest and sincere appreciation.
3. Arouse in the other person an eager want.

Twelve Ways to Win People to Your Way of Thinking

1. Avoid arguments.
2. Show respect for the other person’s opinions. Never tell someone they are wrong.
3. If you’re wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.
4. Begin in a friendly way.
5. Start with questions the other person will answer yes to.
6. Let the other person do the talking.
7. Let the other person feel the idea is his/hers.
8. Try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view.
9. Sympathize with the other person.
10. Appeal to noble motives.
11. Dramatize your ideas.
12. Throw down a challenge.

 

Be a Leader: How to Change People Without Giving Offense or Arousing Resentment

1. Begin with praise and honest appreciation.
2. Call attention to other people’s mistakes indirectly.
3. Talk about your own mistakes first.
4. Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.
5. Let the other person save face.
6. Praise every improvement.
7. Give them a fine reputation to live up to.
8. Encourage them by making their faults seem easy to correct.
9. Make the other person happy about doing what you suggest.

Six Ways to Make People Like You

1. Become genuinely interested in other people.
2. Smile.
3. Remember that a man’s Name is to him the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
4. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
5. Talk in the terms of the other man’s interest.
6. Make the other person feel important and do it sincerely.

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Goodbye

Does anyone like goodbyes? I dont like it. I’m not comfortable with it. I dont like to see tears and last words and ugh!. Someone in the family who is important to me left today. I did not visit her in her house before she go because she reminds me of my mother the second time my mother left to work abroad. And didnt I mention that I do not know why I was crying secretly several times before this day comes?yea, and until now I’m crying while typing this. Didnt I mention that I want to write her a letter but I feel that she will not like it and it’s hard to open up because we’re not close? I feel sad feeling I may not be able to see her again. 

She doesnt know that I care and I love her. She doesnt know that I feel sad when she cry and I’m happy when I see her happy.  I’ve seen her tears a hundreds times and I feel for her but I’m not affectionate. I cannot show my emotions. She doesnt even know that when she came here one night and late at night I heard her crying, she was in bed with us, I felt I wanted to console her but I did nothing. I just listened and pretend that I was sleeping. Until now I regret that I didnt hug her on that day. Everytime I remember it, I cry. 

I have this one question in my mind. How could you feel this way for someone who is not close to you? Of all the people who left me, she is the only one who makes me want to write like this. But there’s only one thing I know, she’s one of the people who’ve touched my life in many different ways and I love her with no reservation. 

Oh yeah, I’ve witnessed how the world was against her but she remains strong. The world left her heart wounded but she faced this world with hope and faith.

So yeah, tell to someone that you love just what you’re thinkin of, if tomorrow never comes.(it’s a song but it’s a lesson).