After not blogging for more than a month, I happened to reread all what I’ve written  and I realized I suck. My way of thinking WAS completely different from what I’m thinkin now.

But one good side of blogging on my part is I get to reflect and look back on what I’ve done and what Ive said.

I’m feelin ugly.

I really dont like mirrors.

Yesterday, I looked for the result of the 2009 nursing licensure exam. When I saw my name I was teary eyed. Gosh, I couldnt believe it. I saw my full name. I bought a newspaper which contains the lists of all board passers. When I came back home, I saw my father’s gloomy face. Maybe he just woke up that afternoon. I was not really going to tell him because I want him to heard it from other people. I just told him that the result has been released. I gave him the newspaper and search my name. I was changing my dress when he suddenly cried. He’s more than happy I guess. haha…

Well of course he hugged me and kissed me. The next thing he did? Well he spread the news.

Well I gotta thank God for this blessing and of course my family.

Dont know when I’ll be blogging again. I just feel I gotta write this…

I was 12 days away from home and I not only missed my family but also the kids in the neighborhood who after seeing me coming ran into out house and wanted to play with me. I hope they’ll still be the same when they grow up and I hope they’ll still be able to say I love you to me. They are two of cousin’s sons…

I hope they”ll’ still kiss and hug me just what they often do. I wish they’ll be young forever.

There are really things in this world you have to experience before you fully understand. I wasnt able to blog for too long. I became busy with life. I became tired, sick and rude but I never forget how to learn. I hope I can share what I’ve experienced and what I’ve learned one of these days.

When you are teaching someone or teaching a group of people, is it right to be mean and humiliate someone to stress that you are right?

It is right to criticize someone’s wrong deeds as an example to your teachings?

Is it right to laugh at someone’s stupidity, weakness and wrong beliefs?

Is it right to hurt a person’s feeling for other people to learn?

It is right  to question what someone say or do?

Is it right to boast just to inspire people to stress the right path to take?

Can you teach without judging others?

Isnt it shallowness, hyprocrisy, lack of understanding to human behavior and possibly wrong beliefs about self to say things that can degrade or kill someone in words?

How could you judge the world you live in without weighing yourself in all aspects? Teaching someone to be in the right path  doesnt mean you gotta be holy or pure. It doesnt mean you you’ve got to be righteous before someone listens to you.  

Do you cast a stone to someone without examining yourself? 

He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her–bible

When you teach, you’ve got to acknowledge that each one of us has weaknesses,  any human behavior has a reason, everyone has feelings. Isnt it appropriate to just inspire humbly for people to learn than to condemn? The sole purpose of teaching someone to have a purpose-driven life or to be in the right path is to be able to effectively change a person without losing his self esteem, where a person can develop a positive self  love and gain a deep understanding of the world. Another purpose is to help the person study himself without degradation but by how you shine as a humble teacher with your words and deeds. Even if you dont speak of your goodness or shout to the world about your achievements, you will illuminate and you will become someone’s leader(like my former classmate whom I will always respect for being a good leader and a good person without being arrogant).

I believe it’s possible to help others see through your eyes because you can lend your vision and get it back when the person can view things alone the way you want that person to view things or you can help the person see the world he should suppose to see through the light that illuminates in you.

A good teacher is a good leader as well but you’ve got to win people and not sway them away. 

This is worth to share from Dale Carnegie’s ” How to Win Friends and Influence People”

Source: Wikipedia

Some are somewhat related or not related to the post but I still included them.

Fundamental Techniques in Handling People

1. Don’t criticize, condemn or complain.
2. Give honest and sincere appreciation.
3. Arouse in the other person an eager want.

Twelve Ways to Win People to Your Way of Thinking

1. Avoid arguments.
2. Show respect for the other person’s opinions. Never tell someone they are wrong.
3. If you’re wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.
4. Begin in a friendly way.
5. Start with questions the other person will answer yes to.
6. Let the other person do the talking.
7. Let the other person feel the idea is his/hers.
8. Try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view.
9. Sympathize with the other person.
10. Appeal to noble motives.
11. Dramatize your ideas.
12. Throw down a challenge.

Be a Leader: How to Change People Without Giving Offense or Arousing Resentment

1. Begin with praise and honest appreciation.
2. Call attention to other people’s mistakes indirectly.
3. Talk about your own mistakes first.
4. Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.
5. Let the other person save face.
6. Praise every improvement.
7. Give them a fine reputation to live up to.
8. Encourage them by making their faults seem easy to correct.
9. Make the other person happy about doing what you suggest.

Six Ways to Make People Like You

1. Become genuinely interested in other people.
2. Smile.
3. Remember that a man’s Name is to him the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
4. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
5. Talk in the terms of the other man’s interest.
6. Make the other person feel important and do it sincerely.

~End

Does anyone like goodbyes? I dont like it. I’m not comfortable with it. I dont like to see tears and last words and ugh!. Someone in the family who is important to me left today. I did not visit her in her house before she go because she reminds me of my mother the second time my mother left to work abroad. And didnt I mention that I do not know why I was crying secretly several times before this day comes?yea, and until now I’m crying while typing this. Didnt I mention that I want to write her a letter but I feel that she will not like it and it’s hard to open up because we’re not close? I feel sad feeling I may not be able to see her again. 

She doesnt know that I care and I love her. She doesnt know that I feel sad when she cry and I’m happy when I see her happy.  I’ve seen her tears a hundreds times and I feel for her but I’m not affectionate. I cannot show my emotions. She doesnt even know that when she came here one night and late at night I heard her crying, she was in bed with us, I felt I wanted to console her but I did nothing. I just listened and pretend that I was sleeping. Until now I regret that I didnt hug her on that day. Everytime I remember it, I cry. 

I have this one question in my mind. How could you feel this way for someone who is not close to you? Of all the people who left me, she is the only one who makes me want to write like this. But there’s only one thing I know, she’s one of the people who’ve touched my life in many different ways and I love her with no reservation. 

Oh yeah, I’ve witnessed how the world was against her but she remains strong. The world left her heart wounded but she faced this world with hope and faith.

So yeah, tell to someone that you love just what you’re thinkin of, if tomorrow never comes.(it’s a song but it’s a lesson).

I honestly want to find someone like Chuck. He may not have a body of a hunk or he may not have an amazing strength of a real guy but Chuck’s a good man. Chuck works at the Buy More and yes he’s just an average guy but Chuck is more than just a good person as what Sarah is always saying, he’s sweet, caring and smart,yes smart.. well not at all times because he had compromised himself a lot of times, let say…. always?

Chuck always do anything for his loved ones especially Ellie and Morgan. He’ll risk his life for them. Chuck is trusting. Everytime I’m watching, I couldnt stop myself from saying moron and stupid. Well, Casey always use to call him moron. Chuck is a great best friend and a great lover too.

And of course, who wouldnt want to watch Chuck to always see “Captain Awesome”. He’s a great guy too. How could there be a hunk plus a good guy in one? I dont know the things that he did “awesome” but that’s what Chuck always use to call him. Ah, now I remember, Capt. Awesome is into mountain climbing and jumping out of the plane, doing awesome things for Chuck’s sister, Ellie so all in all, everything he does is awesome according to Chuck and Ellie. Both of them call Capt. Awesome’s family, “The Awesomes”. Anyway, Chuck’s really a great guy. A man wouldnt give big credits for another man, especially when he’s talking to his girlfriend.

If I couldnt find someone like Chuck, I’ll probably look for someone like Casey. John Casey. He’s always rude to Chuck but he treats Chuck as a buddy. He’s not someone who overtly shows feelings but somehow you know he has a good heart. He shows care through rudeness because maybe he doesnt like affection, closeness, anything like that. What I do like about him also is his jaw. A jaw that was chiseled by Michaelangelo as described by Chuck under a truth serum.

Morgan is needy, equally stupid as Chuck, not to include Chuck’s stupidity in a good way. Morgan is funny for not being funny on the way he does things. Sometimes I couldnt stand him because he appears to be dependent to Chuck and his moronity in doing his job at the Buy More is, well, funny, yeah and a bit immoral. Good thing he never gets fired. Sometimes you’ll love him but most of the time you’ll hate him and I dont like his hair. It’s untidy. But you’ll still love him, considering he’s Chuck’s best friend.

You’ll like the whole cast even the Buy More employees. They’re fun to watch but most of the time the way their minds go are odd and  moronic.

You’ll also love Ellie and Sarah for sure if you’re a guy.

So those are the four great guys I love watching in different extraordinary ways. Catch them on NBC.

I was waiting patiently for my sister to come because It’s her birthday today. I was waiting what she has for us. I was pretty dissappointed to see a box of pizza because I was hoping for something better than a box of pizza and a juice drink. But at least we enjoyed eating all of it. Today’s my sister’s 18th birthday. She is still studying in college so I understand that she has more priorities in life than bringing a bunch of blowout for us. When I was her age, I took all my friends in a fast food chain and I ordered the best I can give for them. They were my friends, I loved them. Now, they are strangers to me after realizing we have lots of differences. I put all my efforts to become a good friend to them but nothing really lasts forever. I guess they do not belong in my future, I dont belong in theirs neither.

Sometimes we exert too much efforts on the things that make us happy at the moment. We sometimes forget the essentials. We value objects than the happiness of others. We value peers than the happiness of our own family.

Yesterday was my brother’s birthday too. It was especial. Of course every birthdays in the family is special. But my brother instead of partying with his family, invited all his friends in the house and cook foods for them. I guess birthdays are for friends or peers mostly and not essentially be celebrated with families. So to celebrate his birthday on my own, despite of my dysmenorrhea, I took a bath and walk few miles to buy foods and coke but my intention for going out was just to buy feminine pads. I hid it in a room(the room I share with my two sisters). I celebrate both of their birthdays alone unbeknownst to them.

I’m not upset. I did the same thing when I was their age but now my focus is their happiness after realizing that they are more important than anyone or anything in the world.

First of all, I have lots of stories how I was burried alive because of lack of motivation. I already wrote it on some of my blogs.I”m suppose to be a better person now if I remained alive during those times. Isaac Newton have this law that a body at rest will remain at rest unless acted upon by an external force, something like that. That is true but in a human being capable of doing anything with the power of the mind, I cant believe that Iwas just one of those who just let others pushed me around.

I started to think that we are sails without a compass. We just go where the wind blows because there are many uncertainties in life, that we can do nothing about. We dont want to be disappointed or humiliated, that’s why we move  aimlessly and sometimes we dont try things on our own because of fear.

Nine years from now, I’ll be 30 and then I’ll be 40 and then 50 and so on,and eventually I’ll  die excluding other human life circumstances, I’ll probably die of old age. Before I get there, I have to have a fulfilled life. My parents wont be supporting me forever, I’ll have my own family in the future and because those are normal human phenomenon, I have to start now.

I’m budgeting my time on study, exercise, family fun and sleep. There is a dynamic force that motivates me now and that is my dream. Everyone dreams whether big or small and I believe there’s no small or big dream as long as you are doing something to get it.

Once, I thought I was the best but when I saw some of the faces I know being in the place where they want to be, that was the time I realized I wasnt the best at all because some of them werent the best, and I’m sure some of them were thinking they werent the best but who’s the best now? Sometimes it’s not how smart or intelligent you are,  it’s how much you want your life to be productive. It’s not even how much you excel in thinking abilities but how dynamic you are to excel in anything that can help you get through your goals.

Now I see that I’ll drive that dream car one of these days, I’ll have that beautiful house and I’ll have a merry life. Those arent just dreams. Those are  mine. I’m the one who’s trying to build those from scratch. Who knows what I can make out of scratch with the amount of motivation that I have now.

After struggling from zero to only not more than 10 views per day  in my first 3 months of blogging, I finally learned how to make my blog be clicked and read by random readers not only who blog on wordpress. 

Although these may sound cliche but these actually work for me:

 Dont write when you feel like you dont want to write.

Make an interesting title. This one is important because I noticed that some of my interesting titles are still being viewed eventhough they were made like let’s say 3 mos ago and even the contents arent really good. Plus I noticed that my blog stat suddenly boosts whenever I’m posting a blog with an interesting title.

If you want others to read your blog, read other’s blogs too. This works for me and dont forget to leave a sensible comment.

Blog stat isnt really important to me but the more often I blog, the more I get many views and comments. But I’ve got to be real, looking at blog stat is fun.Really.

Be yourself. I dont try to be a newspaper columnist or a professional writer because if I tried, I will not sound like me and I’ll have many mistakes for sure. Plus, no words are censored when blogging, you can write anything and everything and show the real you.

I think short blogs are tend to be read fully by most bloggers and large blocks of text  only bore readers so the best thing to do is to break it down to small paragraphs.

WordPress has tips also on how your blogs can be featured. When some of my blogs got featured, my blog stat increased.

Learn from your blog stat I think is the most important.